Honesty, Always the Best Policy

First, A's adoption paperwork is all in and we are excitedly awaiting for approval and ultimately to be given a court date! We know the process takes a long time but we really excited!!

This brings us to today...

NERVOUS.

We are going to visit D today. We are chock-full of varying emotions. Super excited, as always to see him, yet we have some concerns and prayer requests. 

We are concerned because behaviors have been such that our visit necessitates that we remain on campus. Visiting on campus is fine, but point to bigger concerns. Please pray he is learning through these moments and expanding his coping skills to the point of being successful at home and in the community. 

Our biggest concern, today, is that we will be explaining to D that A's adoption will go through soon, but because he is not in our home right now we have to hold on his.

It makes us want to cry just to think of hurting him in any way. The last thing we want is for him to feel rejection or that he is less worthy. We know these emotions, in this case, are unavoidable to some degree. So, we have sought counsel on how to go about this today. 

Like us, A is also concerned about how his brother will take the news. But agrees, he wouldn't want us to keep things from him either. 

You see, we told the boys we would never lie to them. If we withhold this part of their story, we risk losing the trust we've been working so hard to build. And honestly, if we held if from D, A would also lose trust thinking we may also keep things from him. 

Pray for D, please. Pray that the Lord go before us preparing his heart. Pray that he will be able to talk through emotions and not act out, pray that if he is going to act out it is while we are there and can work through the emotions with him, reassure him of our love and commitment.

We are all so looking forward to seeing him and giving him bigs hugs. If only a warm hug and love could cure...but despite what the Beatles say, it takes more than love! 

BTW, A is very excited about his paperwork being done and prays that the court date for finalization happens on his birthday in June! We think that would be a pretty fine present as well!!!