Want to know more about what My husband and I have been facing? Check this out. http://abcn.ws/1MXcTEK
We don't talk about the details of what we face because we don't want our kiddos to be labeled, we believe we can make a difference, but it will take a time. Plus, we already feel a bit ostracized by friends who just don't understand. It's okay, we get it, we are overwhelmed by it too. We didn't ask for this, but God knew they needed someone to fight for answers, for help and to still love them through their life. He knew they needed people who weren't going to cower to fear of the overwhelming and unknown but to fiercely advocate despite our often heavy hearts and exhaustion.
At times we feel judged, but we can't parent like other people parent, it looks a lot different to combat years of trauma and foster trust and dependence. We understand that the judgement is due to a lack of education/understanding regarding Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD).
Until recently, RAD and the trauma it causes, hasn't been well studied. Yet, more and more literature is coming forth. It's sad and yet fascinating to learn about. Our brains are so fragile, from conception they are formed dependent upon our surroundings and interactions.
The younger the interventions, the better the outcomes. Sometimes we feel like we are racing against a clock, but then we remember all the prayers and know the One who is in control is not bound by time.
Continue to keep us in your prayers. We are on a new safer step in the journey. But one that will likely set back the attachment. In addition, Beaver and I have been struggling emotionally. Thankfully (i have the best work team ever) I was given a few days off to regroup, this has been so good for us!
Special thanks to my mom and brothers for their unwavering support!
We know we aren't alone, if you know people struggling with RAD kids who need a listening ear or to know they aren't alone, feel free to have them contact us. We'd love support and walk beside them on their journey.
If you feel burdened for them but don't know what to do, just do something. Believe me, they won't know what they need, but they need to know people are there for them. We received a few fast food gift cards in the mail and another time a frozen casserole to cook up when could, someone else showed up to sit with us in the waiting room. This felt amazing!!!
If nothing else read up on RAD and get a peak into their battle so you can truly empathize with them.
Prayer warriors, thank you!!!!
(Wow, that was lengthy!)
